If You Want to Change, You May Have to Deal With Discomfort!

We know this on one level, yet deep down inside, we hope that it isn’t true.  This is why the diet ads, the diet pills, the “magic” exercise machines sell. We want to change–we just don’t want to feel uncomfortable while we are changing!

I love the ads that say, “eat whatever you want and lose weight!”  What the what?

That doesn’t even make sense! Were people always like this? Did people always want the easy way?

I am not saying that everything has to be difficult. I often think we make things harder than they have to be, but we also want things to be really, really, easy, or we give up.

I think it comes down to this–no one wants to be uncomfortable.  We want the perfect temperature, the perfect weather, the perfect relationship, the perfect friendship, and it just isn’t always possible.

Sometimes life is uncomfortable. Sometimes, even the people we love can make us uncomfortable.

Our lives can sometimes get complicated and uncomfortable.

And change, or the attempt to change, makes us really, really uncomfortable.

I often warn people who are trying to make healthy changes that this could be very uncomfortable. Whether the change is to build a routine of exercise into their lives, to change their eating habits, or to reduce their stress, it can feel very awkward.  And not just for them–for the people around them, too.

It is important to keep focused on what you want in the long run.  If you keep that picture in front of you, of what you want your life to look like, what you yourself want to look like, you can weather the discomfort.

In the case of Stress Reduction, a technique may be to make a list of the goals: Better sleep, sharper thinking, more calmness, less colds, better relationships, clearer skin, and a happier life.

For weight loss, displaying pictures of the look you want to have, or the clothes you want to wear, can be extremely helpful.

For someone trying to build exercise into their life, a calendar or chart to track their progress with stars can be a really fun visual to use. Signing up for a race whether it is a walking, running or biking race, can help keep the goal in mind.

If you can visualize where you want to be, when the changes feel uncomfortable, you can remind yourself of the reason you are making the changes.  You need to keep the end goal in sight.

Other people can be very uncomfortable when we make changes. There are a lot of reasons for this.

It is sometimes threatening in some way, there may be jealousy, or it may put them out and change their schedule. Again, you need to keep the end game in sight.

If you are making changes that will make you happier, better your life and your health, and you are not hurting anyone, you have to keep going. No matter who is uncomfortable!

4 Responses to “If You Want to Change, You May Have to Deal With Discomfort!”

  1. 1 lupieayah June 11, 2009 at 11:58 am

    Very true! Making those changes are even more uncomfortable when dealing with chronic illness. There is no magic pill.



  2. 3 Lauren Goldstein June 16, 2009 at 10:22 am

    You are so right on! I struggle with trying to alter my eating habits in order to lose weight and it is extremely uncomfortable at times! Sometimes I can ride the discomfort like a wave and get to the other side and sometime I can’t. Thanks for sharing…it reminds me that I’m not the only one going through this.

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